What is self-confidence? Being self confident means being secure in yourself and in your abilities. Self-confidence can mean different things to different people. Just like I did in Boss Lady I wanted to talk about another important topic on my blog and that is Self Confidence.
I haven't mastered this in ANY way but I feel I have improved in many ways from my 16 year old self to now and although many people have helped and influenced, I mostly have only myself to thank. I was never a confident girl or someone who had any real faith in what I did. I used to question all of my decisions, leaving my mind blocked and unable to enjoy the day. Five years ago I couldn't even leave the house without a bit of makeup, at least some mascara. I was too self conscious, too worried about what others might think, 'is my hair looking decent?', 'are my pimples showing?'.
A couple of months ago, for the first time ever I started to believe that I was actually doing something right in my life. I started believing more in myself and in my abilities. I realized that after all it isn't really important how other people look at me or what they think of me. Like I said, I still have a long way to go but finally I feel like I'm heading in the right direction.
This blog was actually part of helping me gain confidence. Going to events, meeting and talking to new people I've never actually met just because we had one thing in common has actually lead me to new friendships and new memories. Believing that I'm confident has led me to such beautiful things. Being more confident had led me to be more comfortable in front of a camera and around other people.
Being proud of who you are is actually a good thing. In my case, something that took away my self confidence was the fact the I have a tendency to compare myself to others and ask why am I not good enough or why am I not like them? In reality, we go through life stages in our lives that are not in sync with those of others. When I stopped comparing myself to others and simply focused on my tasks, goals and achievements I noticed that I was happier, I was in a better mood and I was less self conscious.
- Whatever the situation may be, keep your head held high and trust your instincts - they know best!
- Ignore other's actions
- Trust yourself
- Be yourself
- Love yourself
I hope that this helped in some way or another! If you have any other topics you'd like me to talk about on the blog, feel free to message me and let me know. I want to use my platform to help, inspire & motivate others just like other bloggers & influencers do to me!
Have an amazing weekend!
Love,
Deborah X
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